Saturday, 25 April 2015

Be the man!

After a long time of waiting, hoping, and wishing, I finally stopped dreaming of someday and began to take control of what was cause negativity in my life. It took a long time for me to get up the courage and strength to do what I knew needed to be done, but here is the tale of my attempt to be my own hero...

There are many ways one can save his or herself, but lately I've seen a lot of heroism when it comes to myself. It's a tough job world out there, and it can be very tempting to sit back and complain, to soak in the negativity (because, hey, it's not too hard to find in an economy like this one) and just settle for whatever comes along. 

I've been thinking a lot about what it means to be your own hero. Many people spend such a great deal of time waiting around for someone to save them. There are quite a few poor souls, feeling stranded and alone, waiting for fate to swoop in and save the day.It would be wonderful if we could all just sit around and someday be saved from whatever it is that is making us unhappy, but that's not the way life works. You are a hero to yourself. Be the one who save your life for being unhappy single woman.

Some people might have the perception that I am a dominant person. The way I speak  and the way I picture myself as an independent woman. Hahaha. In fact, not long ago, a guy friend of mine told me this, " i think everyone has the thought that you are a dominant because you always want to be an independent but you can't be a hero, you are still a woman who needs someone to rely on"... and we laughed at it.

Come to think back, as much as I would find that to be a dream come true, I got to a point when I finally realized: no one is going to save me. I had to take control of this myself. All my life, I have been the only "manja" girl in the family and always depending on my dad and friends/ ex-es to sort out for me. Its time for  a change.I have to take matters into my own hands.

There are days when I would come home from work, exhausted and drained, and it took every once of strength to drive home when my brain sent me the sign " I AM TIRED, CAN YOU GET ANYONE TO SEND YOU HOME". Hahaha ;p. Inside me I found something that resembled bravery and I keep moving forward until one day I told myself, " YOU ARE A HERO akma, let's do this! Don't wait for the magic moment when someone can save you and make your life happy. 

It's been quite a road to get from where I was to where I am now, but I hope that by sharing my experience and negative perception on how independent single career woman potray themselves will  inspire others to realise this bravery and accomplishment when you ever feel down again: it's a powerful reminder of all you are capable of which is to be a HERO to yourself and be HAPPY.

Have a good weekend love xx